Chicago Divorce Lawyer

The beauty of old-fashioned euphemisms

Whether in writing or coffee, sometimes old-fashioned is better.

Sometimes I wish I lived in the old days where issues were described so delicately. For example, in the mid 19th century, divorced people were referred to as “victims” of divorce.

According to the book Euphemania by Ralph Keyes, in the 17th century people could be sentenced to the stocks for “unseemly behavior ” an offense which might range from dirty talk with an unmarried member of the opposite sex to kissing your “wife on the doorstep after returning from three years at sea.” Continue reading →

Using Tint to find missing children

I just discovered this social media aggregator called Tint. It basically gathers feeds and posts them together in a pretty way. So for example, it can mix-up all the feeds from your twitter, Facebook, and linked-in accounts into one single feed. You can then post this feed online to make it easier on your friends to keep up with your latest developments. Continue reading →

Post-divorce wedding etiquette

Polite grizzly bear.

I always advice clients to be on their best behavior even after the divorce. My theory is that your focus should be on improving yourself and this can only be accomplished through good behavior.

Miss Manner’s had more practical advice for a woman who sought advice on how to behave at her daughter’s wedding:

If you are rude to your ex-husband’s new wife at your daughter’s wedding, you will make her feel smug. Comfortable. If you are charming and polite, you will make her feel uncomfortable. Which do you want to do?

Robert Frost on financial discovery

Baby looking at huge piggy bank

Baby contemplating financial matters.

In the “discovery” phase of a divorce, lawyers often depose their client’s spouses. Lawyers ask in great detail how the spouse spent their money over the past few years. Most people don’t know what they did with their money last week, let alone last year.

So, I had to laugh when I read this poem by Robert Frost from “The Hardship of Accounting” (1936):

Never ask of money spent
Where the spender thinks it went.
Nobody was ever meant
To remember or invent
What he did with every cent.